That ‘do nothing’ critic in your head

I often think that if I could tweak the human mind in some way, the main thing that I would do is to remove the influence of the harsh critic that so many people have in their head.

And the reason I say that is that I’ve come across so many people who have sacrificed themselves for others and who lead blameless lives, but who are tormented by the critic in the head, that endlessly goes on at them for not being good enough for for making this mistake or that mistake.

From socks to career

The critic, as you may have heard me say before,  will criticise you for everything from the colour socks you’re wearing, to the career you’ve chosen, to where you’re living – it’ll pick on anything.

But I think it’s important to remember this is one point that I want to emphasise here:

The critic hasn’t actually, really, done anything. Everything that you’ve done in your life that’s good, was done by you.

Everything that got done

It wasn’t done by that critic. And every struggle that you’ve had to carry out as people do in their lives, has been carried out by you and not by the critic. By remembering this, you get to give far less importance to the critic, to de-throne the critic, so to speak.

So just remember that one thing. The critic hasn’t really done anything.

Anything that got done was done by you.

True Friend, my 15 lesson self compassion course, can help you to dethrone that critic.