Are you good enough?

Are you good enough?

Well, you’re already good enough to be here in this world. That’s the law. That’s what the Constitution says. That’s what most human societies in history have said, that by virtue of being here, you are good enough to be here.

I think that’s an important thing to remember from the point of view of self compassion and self care.

Doing well

When it comes to tasks or things that we need to do, we do want to do well. But ‘doing well’ is usually the same as ‘good enough.’

Psychologists often say that parents should aim to be ‘good enough’ parents and not perfect, because perfection is a pretty hard thing to for the child to live up to, apart from being impossible.

So I think that’s worth remembering from the point of view, as I said, of self compassion and of self care, that what we aim to do in tasks or projects we have to carry out is to be ‘good enough’ overall.

You don’t have to be perfect

But you don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to win every time. And as a person, you are good enough to be here in this society, in this human society, without having to prove anything further.

As I like to say, Good enough is good enough.

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