It’s one thing to say ‘nobody’s perfect’ as many of us say from time to time. But in a world in which – in my view – perfectionism makes people feel bad about themselves because they cannot live up perfectly to its demands (nobody can) we need to take the statement seriously.
If nobody in the house, the country or on the planet is perfect then why should you beat yourself up because you’re not perfect either?
None of the beautiful things we see around us was made by perfect people. Yet these things are beautiful although they undoubtedly contain flaws.
How many beautiful, useful or fun objects or happenings have we missed out n because of perfectionism? One of its effects us to make people put off starting or finishing projects because of a fear that they cannot reach some high standard which probably wasn’t reachable in the first place.
How much richer the world would be if the imperfect things had been completed. And it’s safe to assume that some of these would have been of a good, even high, standard – some people’s ‘good enough’ is often very good indeed. What a pity they often abandon the effort because they cannot reach the impossible standard of perfection.
This, I think, is well worth reflecting on and taking to heart – doing so can open the door to peace.
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