Low moods – don’t believe everything they tell you

Our moods have a strong influence on our thoughts, and on how we see the world.

I’m sure you’ve noticed that when you’re in a low mood, the world can look like a very gloomy place, indeed. And when you’re in a really good mood, everything is brighter and better.

I don’t trust you

So I’ve learned to say, to my low moods, that I don’t trust you. “You’re saying to me right now that I’m a failure, and everything is terrible, and everything is awful. But a couple of hours time, or tomorrow, everything will look different and you’ll be saying the the opposite.”

“And so I’m not going to take you seriously. I’d rather listen to my good mood when it comes along.”

What I’m trying to do here is to underline the importance of not believing everything, that a low mood says, because it really can take the good out of the good things in life.

Not denial

It isn’t a question of denying that that anything can be wrong. It’s more a question of not letting that mood dominate you to such an extent that it stops you from doing things, from getting moving, from getting out and about.

Getting moving, even when you have to push yourself, can bring closer the moment when a good mood arises.

So just remember, my little formula is to tell low moods, I don’t trust you, I don’t believe everything you say. Just that can open up a space for hope, a space on which to allow the low mood to go in its own time and to look to the arrival of the time of feeling good.

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