Kindfulness

Do you get something wrong every day? That’s “bombu” nature. This Buddhist concept means we never get things completely right: instead we often make a mess of things because we’re human. Bombu nature means we need to accept we can […]

Here’s an exercise in self-compassion especially for those who feel guilty about doing nice things for themselves. In my youth in Ireland we were told that good Irish Catholics should engage in ‘self-mortification’ which is giving yourself a tough time […]

What, if it happened in the future, would transform your life? What, if it had happened in the past, would have transformed your life? Psychology tells us there’s a good chance that neither of these events would change your feelings […]

When I began to write and think about self-compassion in 2015, the concept generated less interest than it does today. Self-compassion as a practice was becoming part of the mindfulness movement but outside that arena not much was heard about […]

Imagine a new romantic interest invites you to his home for dinner. You get all dressed up and over you go. Maybe you buy something for dessert to show your appreciation. When you arrive he pulls out a chair and […]

Well-wishing Take a couple of minutes now and then, perhaps with your eyes closed, to do this exercise based on an old Buddhist practice: Observe your breathing calmly for short while. Now imagine that somebody has sat down in front […]