Mindfulness Blog

What, if it happened in the future, would transform your life? What, if it had happened in the past, would have transformed your life? Psychology tells us there's a good chance that neither of these events would change your feelings significantly. You would feel more...

When I began to write and think about self-compassion in 2015, the concept generated less interest than it does today. Self-compassion as a practice was becoming part of the mindfulness movement but outside that arena not much was heard about it. Now, in the lead-up...

"You've made your bed and now you must lie in it." This is one of the most un-compassionate phrases we can use to ourselves or to others. Usually it means it's time to pay for your choices and you can expect no sympathy from me. Of course we need to take...

Imagine a new romantic interest invites you to his home for dinner. You get all dressed up and over you go. Maybe you buy something for dessert to show your appreciation. When you arrive he pulls out a chair and you sit down at the table. He goes to the kitchen and...

“We have a strong need to be on the way to some better moment, some better time when it all will come together for me. We can so easily become impatient and driven. Of course, this prevents us from being where we already are.” Jon Kabat-Zinn, Mindfulness for...

In mindfulness practice we are often encouraged to observe our thoughts and let them float by. It's a way of disengaging from unhelpful or hurtful thoughts. But when Ruby Wax went to Cape Town to teach mindfulness to young girls who had been badly abused, she sensed...